Monday, December 3, 2012

post of choice

On my post of my choice I am thinking about a quote that we have probably heard before from Albert Einstein, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
I do believe that every human being will face challenges and sometimes those challenges are difficult to work through but when people can find what works for them they will have a more solid foundation for accomplishing what matters most to them.  I think that counseling is all about empowerment and helping clients find their self. I think counseling is just one of the avenues that can help others muddle through this roller coaster of life.  Sometimes I think counselors are like a GPS for clients, counselors can help clients see the goal or destination that the client wants to reach, but the client still has to do the work to get it. I will close by using another one of my favorite quotes form Shel Silverstein, “Listen to the mustn’ts child. Listen to the don’ts. Listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossible, and the won’ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me…anything can happen, child. Anything can be.”  

Semester Reflection

During the past sixteen weeks of my practicum for my master’s counseling program, I have learned several things. From my experience I learned that there usually are not enough hours in the day to get accomplished everything that you wake up in the morning needing to get finished during your work day! I have been responsible for my full time job as a fourth grade teacher as well as completing practicum requirements. At the beginning of my practicum I would bring home hours of work, I soon learned that I had to come up with a method that would work for me to accomplish what had to be done without bogging myself down every evening. That is when I learned to use every minute as efficiently as possible to take on the dual role that I found myself in at the time. From my practicum experience I also learned that most people in my building have no real idea about what a counselor’s job description really is. I learned that most people think a counselor is someone who comes to their class teachers a lesson about character and lets that particular homeroom teacher have break for an hour. If something happens that demands a counselor’s immediate attention and the counselor can’t make the guidance lesson for reasons beyond their control, the counselor gets frowned upon by the teacher who didn’t get her break for that day.  This is probably the most frustrating thing that I encountered while in my practicum. I still count this experience as valuable because I learned how to deal with colleagues who did not understand a counselor’s foremost duties and responsibilities. I think that because of this experience early on, I will be equipped to deal with future situations in a manner that will help colleagues see that counselors are not simply ‘break givers’.
I also learned some things about myself that I wasn’t fully aware of.  I learned that I have a higher tolerance for people than I thought I did originally. I know I have patience, but having my patience tried a few times, I learned to become even more patient! I learned that kids are more resilient than what most people give them credit for and usually they react to situations the best way that they know how to. Problems seem to occur the most when kids don’t know the appropriate way to respond to situations, and that is because their experience is still developing and they are encountering a lot of first time issues and don’t have the skills to help them make the best choices. This is where counselors can help educate kids about the situations that will arise that may not be part of their academic education, but is no less of importance.
I do believe that I have grown as a counselor because I learn best from experience and experience is what my practicum has provided me with. I have learned to how to build a counseling relationship with kids that is different from the relationship between a teacher and student. That was hard for me because I have been a classroom teacher for so long. I had to learn to not talk as ‘teachery’ to the kids I was working with in my practicum.
The blogging experience through this class was not as bad as I thought it would be. I was not a blogger before this experience and to be honest I probably would have never become a blogger without having to do it for my practicum. I will continue to use my blog after this practicum is over. I think it will be a good way to keep in contact with others from this class and help gain insight and perspective to counseling from my peers. With communicating on Blackboard, it seems that when the class is over, that is it, you have lost contact with other members of the class too. Sometimes I found relief in reading other people’s blogs because they were experiencing some of the same successes and frustrations that I was going through and it was interesting to read about how other people were facing and dealing with similar situations.
Advice for future students would be is to work out a time schedule for your practicum quickly. In the beginning of the semester you think you have plenty of time to get everything in and to make sure you have all your hours, however, remember that time flies because you find yourself so busy and it seems like you turn around and a month is already over and before you know it the semester is quickly winding down. This is not a class for procrastinators!  Nevertheless, I have learned things in this class that I don’t think I could have learned from a scholarly text book. It is very much like my student teaching experience, you have to get in there hands-on and learn while you are doing. It is important to realize your scope of knowledge and lack of experience as well, and ask for help from your clinical supervisor.

Growth

As a counselor it is important that I continue to grow. I shared with my field supervising counselor that although I have completed the requirements for my master’s counseling degree, I still didn’t know it all. My counselor laughed and said you know how you had to grow and develop professionally as a teacher; now you have to go through the same processes as a counselor to grow and develop. This made sense to me. I want to continue to stay current and up to date on the information that I will need as a counselor. I will have to continue my growth on a personal level because there won’t always be professional developments for me to go to and depend on.
Personally I will continue to grow and work to becoming a better and better counselor. I cannot be afraid to talk to other more seasoned counselors and listen to their words. I have to always consider what is ethical and legal and work within my scope. I want to empower and help others work toward solutions that will benefit them in their life. I think my awareness of others will help me become a more caring and compassionate person toward people and I will try to understand positions that people are in that I am not familiar with myself.

Week 16

During this course I have used the blog as a means of communication between myself and classmates. I have responded to the blog through a variety of questions. The questions have made me think about my position as a counselor in the making and my perception to counseling thus far. One of the things that stood out to me was the honesty of my classmates. I felt like my classmates could truly say what the felt and what was on their mind and I did enjoy that aspect.
There was a feeling of excitement waiting to see what my classmates had responded to the blog, or if they had responded at all.
As I read over some of the other classmates’ blogs I did have a change in thinking a few times. It is always interesting to think in a different perspective and I think that makes individuals grow.
I cannot really see in any way that the blog changed my values.  I am an open minded person and I didn’t feel like the blog made me change my sense of self in any way.
The blog did help my reflection because any time I have to respond and reflect I have to rethink about my actions and I think about what I could have done better. I do think the blog helped enhance reflection strategies for myself.
The most challenging thing about the blog was learning how to use it and the step up process. I have to give a big thank you to my professor who walked me through this process. I would have never blogged without her guidance!!
For future bloggers I would suggest setting a time period aside each week to maintain and update your blog. Keep on top of assignments; it is easier to do that in the long run.

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Counseling Free-Write

Throught this practicum experience I have come to fully realize just how much responsibility school counselors truly have. I have also come to understand how people who are not counselors understand so little about the job description yet think the know ~everything~. For instance, a couple weeks ago a situation came up where immediate actions had to be taken and authorities became involved. It is impossible to bring people in our school without the whole school community becoming in the know at what is ging on, or at lest what they think might be going on. People that I rarely see came up talking about what happened and had their story and was trying to explain what they thought should have been done to handle the situation. I made absolutely no response to their conversation and in my mind I cracked up at just how much people think they know compared to what they really know about a situation. In a way I was aggravated too. We deal with people from young to old, but nonetheless, people. I was aggitated to think how quickly some people dismiss that idea that people are people regardless. 

I have also had peole come up tp me and want to know when I will become a school counselor. I just reply to them that I don't know and will have to wait and see. Then the response I get is "well I hope you learned how to put a video in and let the class watch it, since that all you will have to do around here..." Again, I chuckle in my mind because statements like this come from the people who have no idea what a school counselor truly does.

So the metaphor in counseling for me, I link it back to my background of growing up on a farm, Counselors are cultivators. You work through challenges sometimes slowly and always with purpose and the outcome will be more productive, stronger, and able to stand on it's own.

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Ice Breaker

Just a quick note about an effective ice breaker that can get a group engaged in conversation:
Fact or Fib
This ice breaker game is also commonly known as "two truths and a lie." Have everyone in the group sit in a small circle facing each other. Players then take turns telling the rest of the group three facts about themselves, including two truths, or facts, and one lie, or fib. Begin with yourself to give an example. Try to come up with two true facts that might seem unrealistic, such as "I have swum with sharks" or "I was an extra in a movie." Add a third fib, such as "I have three brothers." See if the group can guess which fact is a fib. Then continue the game, with each player reciting three facts, and the group guessing which fact is the fib.


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This is an ice breaker that doesn't recquire a lot of props or anything special that you would need to purchase!

Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying
Cyber bullying is an issue that school counselors have to deal with on a daily basis it seems. Cyber bullying is a real problem that cannot be taken lightly. Cyber bullying has also changed how a school counselor has to think about bullying in general. School counselors have to educate students what cyber bullying is and what can happen legally as a result of cyber bullying. I don’t think that most students (or their parents for that matter) are aware of the implications that can come from cyber bullying. If I was given the task of addressing cyberbullying to my school I would start in the beginning of the year and work to educate teachers what examples of cyber bullying are and to make them aware of what could be happening online. Next, I would work with each grade level of students and design age appropriate activities and lessons that would let kids know about cyberbullying and the signs and what to do if a situation occurs. I think that the older students need to have a clear understanding of what can happen if they are the cyber bully as well. This may mean having to include a visit from a student resource officer or state police. Cyber bullying cannot be depicted as an unimportant idea that happens in other places and not here or led to be a cartoonish idea. There needs to be a clear understanding of online etiquette, and a foundation of knowledge of what can happen to cyber bullies and victims, and a route to report instances of cyberbullying.